POSTED RESPONSE TO A COLUMN BY NESRINE MALIK IN THE GUARDIAN
Yes, but there is nothing unique about the circumstances of Muslim women trapped in oppressive families.
Women of orthodox Judaism not only have no right to divorce abusive husbands (although the high-handed husbands may readily divorce their wives) but they will lose their children if they don't comply with the authority of husband and rabbi. They are also under obligation for a certain appearance.
Hindu women can be ordered to marry someone in the twenty-first century. Hindu women who do not meet family expectations are not infrequently murdered, being burned alive.
Catholic women throughout South America and in other places must put up with domineering husbands, must bear all the children required, and have few economic rights.
In animistic Africa, husbands and other relatives raping female children is so common there are homes keeping the offspring who are considered as evil influences back in their villages. It just does not get more degrading than this.
Yes, in all these cases, a woman is technically able to leave her family and to leave her faith, but that is a wrenching change not one in a thousand is up to.
It is truly tiresome to read of the shortcomings of Muslims - just another aspect of the wave of Islamophobia going through the Westerrn world. It is all conservative, tradition-bound religions - all of them - that are abusive to women and have little regard for their rights.
Anyone may see in films of Muslim countries women in all stages of modernism. No head gear at all. Simple head scarves, really little different to the common babushka of the 1940s in the West. And entire bourqas, actually rather rare through the entire Muslim world.
I look at old snapshots of 1950's Chicago, where I grew up, and a prominent feature of the cityscape was nuns in full habit, some of them ridiculously awkward and cumbersome. Just 50 years ago.